We adore perfection. We love imperfection.

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Whenever a loved one dies in Germany, family and friends get together after the funeral for the traditional “Leichenschmaus.” (Corpse Feast – and, no, Germans don’t take that literally.) Very soon, the conversation moves into musings about the imperfections of the deceased. You can feel the love when they share their stories.

The big story last week was “Caine’s Arcade”, an arcade made out of cardboard by an ingenious little boy. The imperfection of his construct makes it so much more lovelier. It’s great to be adored for your perfection. But it’s so much more important to be loved for your imperfections.

Brands always try to be perfect: the glossy brochure, the fancy site, the amazing perfect app, the perfect commercial. When mistakes happen, they try to turn on the huge PR machine, try to gloss over the problems.

It might be time for brands to be less perfect and roll with their imperfections. We love people for it. We would love brands for it.

Him Her – A relationship in type

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Him Her from Nessim Higson on Vimeo.

A beautiful meditation on love and relationships. Valentine’s Day is a few days behind us and we have more than 360 days to go until the chocolates and flowers show up again. In the meantime, let’s focus on what love really is: “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.”

Love Ever After

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Gino and Angie Terranova
Angie: “You don’t really think about getting older. First of all, you’re aging together and when you see a person constantly you don’t notice big changes. You don’t notice, oh, you are getting a little wrinkle here and tomorrow you say it’s a little deeper. Those are things that just happen. I mean, I am not thinking everyday, oh my husband is 83 years old and my goodness I am married to an old man! And I hope he feels that way, too.”
I discovered this project by Lauren Fleishman a few days ago and was immediately intrigued.  Love Ever After shares the love stories of couples who have been married for at least 50 years. Inspired by a letter Lauren’s grandfather wrote to her grandmother during World War II, she began photographing and interviewing in the New York area as a way to preserve their stories and to illuminate our universal experience of love.
She tries to convert this project into an inspiring art book by using the Kickstarter platform. Additional funding will help her to photograph 15-20 more couples and produce a limited edition photo book.
What a lovely project and what a nice idea for a Valentine’s Day gift.
The artist already achieved her funding goal but the more the merrier. Check it out.

Hello, I like you

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An exploration of happiness in an abstract way through the art of finding joy in everyday details. A simple and powerful reminder that life is as as good as we allow it to be.

Do you hate your customers?

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The signs are everywhere:

Fly any domestic airline and you feel hated the moment you walk into the plane. (The feeling is mutual, as you can see from this Twitter search.)

Phone trees are a clear sign that a company hates their customers. They don’t even want to hear from them, they just want them to consume and be quiet.

    Banks really hate their customers. Fees, hidden fees, hidden fees behind hidden fees.

      Telco’s? Oy.

        When was the last time you stood in line at the post office? There are some exceptions but most employees despise each and everyone in the line. They feel entitled to yell at people not standing behind some imaginary line and don’t even bother to look up when talking to you.

          One word: DMV.

            How can you expect your customer to love you when you hate them?

            Just watch commercials.

            Dopey men.

            Women getting excited about a new laundry detergent.

            More dopey men.

            Kids who want nothing in the world more than a crappy plastic toy that accompanies their crappy meal.

            Even more dopey men.

            Did I mention dopey men?

            Since Roseanne left the building, the working class has become the laughing stock of the entertainment and advertising industry. They just want to sit in front of the TV, drink beer, eat fattening food and stare at skirts. That’s how we portray our customers.

            While we glorify people like Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton: empty heads that never contributed anything to society besides conveying the message that being famous is more important than doing something good and valuable.

            You need to love your customers.

            They deserve it.

            They have been through hell.

            Most of them are still in hell.

            They live in daily fear because one more little disaster might cause their personal, financial apocalypse. They are the 15% of unemployed/underemployed people that don’t see a future. They are the employed that fear they might join the 15% very soon. They have given up on wanting something, they just focus on surviving.

            We are all responsible to create a new culture.

            Whatever you do in advertising, it influences our culture.

            It changes how people feel about themselves.

            This goes way beyond being empathetic.

            It’s is about taking off your Madison Avenue shoes and walk in Main Street shoes.

            It’s about stop pleasing your ad friends and start pleasing real people.

            It’s about making a difference.

            It’s about love.

            A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge – Thomas Carlyle.